For more Glamour videos, click here. I was really new to sex and I knew that I wasn't ready to have one-night stand, but I was also really horny all the time and honestly, I would've slept with anyone after two vodka cranberries. My sober self knew that I wasn't ready, but my drunk self didn't care. So to combat this tendency, I wore a decidedly puritanical outfit and my ugliest bra. Like, just the like the ugliest bra you could think of. We go to the party and I get drunk. There was like, beer pong and people were shotgunning and mixing all sorts of flavored vodkas. I sort of loved it and hated it at the same time.
2. Don’t worry about what you look like.
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1. Get familiar with your own pleasure first.
That said, it may help to explore some of your own needs and wants via a one-on-one session with yourself prior to engaging in partnered sex more on that later. But, basically: Relax, breathe, and take it all in stride. The best thing you can do before you have sex for the first time: masturbate. This can be v empowering and make room for lots and lots of pleasure when it comes time for partnered sex, she confirms. Focus instead on what you're experiencing, what feels good, and the sensations of how exactly your partner is touching you. Hopefully this goes without saying but no need to schedule this like an appointment. Allotting only a certain amount of minutes in your day for first-time sex sounds like an unnecessary stress you shouldn't pang yourself with. You may want to engage in some pillow talk , too. Cross , MD. Since condoms help prevent unwanted pregnancy and STIs, take responsibility into your own hands and don't expect your partner to provide them.